Don't think in terms of forever-

So here's something that i found in my hella old journal:

Don't think in terms of forever.
Think of now, & forever will take care of itself.

Grow up together, constantly.

Expect to invest a great deal of time & energy
in your relationship. Lasting relationships don't just
happen, they are created.

Recognize that all relationships cannot be forever.
Recognize their temporary quality, but continue to
act as if they are permanent.

Respect the other person's relationships apart
from you. If they are important to the one
you care about, they should
be important to you.

Never idealize others. They will never live
up to your expectations.

Take your time.

Remove price tags from people. Everyone has
worth; the excitement lies in the discovery of their value.
Don't be afraid of giving. You can never give too
much, if you're giving willingly.

Don't feel as if you are required to spend every
working hour with those you love. Move aside from
time to time & allow them a seperate space too.


Never force anyone to do anything for you in the
name of love. Love is not to bargined for.
Don't be afraid.

Don't over analyze.

Realize that you always have choices.
It's up to you.

Remember that a relationship is a pooling of
resources. It means that with each relationship
you are not only giving, but you are becoming more.

Don't allow relationships to burden your heart;
rather use it to become more aware & sensative.

Don't smother each other.
No one can grow in shade.

Don't lose in touch with the craziness in you.
This, with a large dose of caring, will assure
that your relationship will never be boring.

Get on with living & loving.
You don't have forever.

Don't hold onto anger.
They steal your energy & keep you from love.

There are times when you want to give up on a
relationship but never give up on relating.

Learn to listen. You don't learn anything from
hear yourself talk.

Expect what is reasonable, not what is perfect.

Write down all the reasons why you love
each person you relate with.

Then, when the going gets tough,
take the list out & reread it.
It resources problems quickly.

After an argument is over, forget it.
Don't become involved in pettiness, ego &
childish hurts. Those will only serve to degrade
your relationship & prevent closeness.

Learn to bend. It's better than breaking.

Since love can be created,
there is no reason the be loveless.

Even though you are only half of a relationship,
you must remain a whole person,
apart from the relationship.

Remember that moral & spiritual values don't
restrict, they protect.

Don't fall in love with love, you'll die with it's complexities.

Don't allow your relationships to die of neglect.